Take this for example...
Many couples don’t know how to have healthy arguments, for often the woman does all the talking and complaining, and the man detaches himself. Nothing is achieved and the same row is repeated a week later.
Many women need to learn to argue constructively in order to reduce a man’s fears. Avoid the use of negative language, guilt, repetition of past mistakes and use of phrases starting with “You always......” or “You never......” Instead talk about how you feel, indicating your role in the problem. Even if you think it is his fault, all the blame should not be put on him.
After the contrasting viewpoints have been put, it is a good tactic to suggest a compromise even if you still feel in right.
posted by Zaki @ 8/21/2006 08:34:00 PM
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